I noticed a phenomenon when it comes to pens. Most people I know have a pen holder or a collection of pens somewhere in their house. I have seen them try to write with a pen, see that it clearly does not work, and then put the pen back in the pen holder. I ask them “Do you think it is going so magically work later? Why not just throw it out?”. Many of them didn’t even realize they were doing it, and tossed out the broken pen. Others said they actually did think the pen might work later. I bet many of you reading this have a pen in your house that does not work that you, for some reason, didn’t it throw away.
This reminds me so much of how so many women hold on to their ex’s the same way. How many times do you have to see that a relationship with them clearly will not work? When is it time to throw your ex (and your hopes for your ex to change) in the trash? Why do we keep trying to make something broken work? There are so many people in the world, do we really have to give the same ones a try knowing full well it will almost definitely end in disaster?
Instead of trying again and again with an ex, accept the fact that he wasn’t right for you and stop hoping someday he will be. Would you try on a dress in a store (that you would love to buy) again and again if it did n ot fit you the first time around? Maybe if you changed and lost weight that would make sense, but remember, the dress does not change. Same with your ex. If the problems the relationship had were mostly his, the chances of him changing who he is are slim. If the changes needed to be made were yours, and you have made those changes, fine. But most likely the only thing that did change was you, and for the worse. When women keep trying and trying with an ex, their self esteem plummets, their sense of self worth and self respect suffers, and they become someone they barely recognize.
We should put a limit on how many times we are willing to try with the same person. Women need to realize that giving up on a lost cause is powerful, not weak. You set the limit for how often someone is allowed to hurt you, they do not. He cannot cheat on you any more than you let him. He cannot disrespect you any more than you let him. He can’t treat you like shit anymore than you let him. How can you not let him do that to you anymore and still be with him? You can’t, that is why you have to toss him in the trash, like everything else that no longer works for you.